We just found this deeply touching article in Time magazine that explains how one woman chose to go through IVF so soon after her mother died of cancer. In fact, she also talks about the stigma that goes along with IVF by describing her own judgment against those using IVF.
According to Times Magazine and Beth Ford Roth,
Word gets around when you’ve had IVF, and I often get asked for advice from friends, and friends of friends, whether in vitro is really worth it – worth the steep price tag, the physical pain, the emotional roller coaster. Despite my less than ideal experience with IVF, I tell these women it is their opportunity to take control of their bodies and their desire for a family.
I cringe at the thought of how judgmental I used to be toward women who had their children through IVF. In my 20s, I viewed celebrities as terribly selfish to undergo expensive fertility treatments when (I believed) there were so many adoptable babies who needed homes.
But there are no guarantees with adoption. A birth mother can change her mind. With international adoption (an avenue we pursued for a year) timetables change and foreign governments can alter the rules in the middle of the process. There’s also the completely natural desire to have a child that carries on your family’s traits. I often dreamed that my baby would have my mother’s warm, cat-shaped brown eyes, or my husband’s fierce intellect.
It is funny how experience changes one’s perspective.
Read more here about Beth Ann Roth and her past judgment against IVF.