As we discussed on our Conceptual Options Blog last week, whether you are a Surrogate or carrying your own babies, a twin pregnancy changes everything you may have ever known about being pregnant. In fact, we have found a great article on the Scary Mommy blog that lists the top 10 reasons why a twin pregnancy is so different from a singleton pregnancy.
Here are the top 10 reasons:
1. Welcome to a high risk pregnancy.
2. Hello puke bucket!
3. Ultrasounds! Ultrasounds galore!
4. Maternity clothes are not made for multiples.
5. You will learn a new language.
7. Physics will play a larger role in your life than you ever thought possible.
8. Inappropriate questions, comments, and reactions from complete strangers.
9. Invest in an under belly support band.
There are definitely more than 10 reasons, but these are some of the best! Can you think of any advice for anyone pregnant with multiples?
Read more about twin pregnancy versus singleton pregnancy at the Scary Mommy Blog.
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Conceptual Options IVF News: Divorced Couple Must Destroy Embryos
A San Francisco judge ruled last month that effectively ordered a divorced couple to thaw and discard any remaining embryos currently frozen in their IVF clinic’s office.
San Francisco judge ruled Wednesday that frozen embryos a woman wants to use over her ex-husband’s objections must be “thawed and discarded.”
Superior Court Judge Anne-Christine Massullo, in an 83-page decision, upheld a consent form the couple signed shortly after their marriage in 2010. The couple agreed on the form provided by the fertility clinic that the embryos should be destroyed if they divorced.
“It is a disturbing consequence of modern biological technology that the fate of nascent human life, which the embryos in this case represent, must be determined in a court by reference to cold legal principles,” Massullo wrote.
In addition, despite the woman’s objections the judge determined the following:
In about a dozen other embryo disputes around the country, not one high court has decided to award an embryo to someone over the ex-partner’s objection. No appellate court in California has decided the issues posed in the Lee-Findley case, but Massullo (judge) said her ruling was consistent with how other courts in the nation have viewed such cases.
Binding agreements minimize the need for court resolution of what many believe is one of the most personal decisions an individual makes: when and under what circumstances to bring a child into the world.
A spokeswoman for Lee said she was disappointed and considering her options. She had indicated previously that she would appeal if she lost.
Read more here about the Divorced Couple who must thaw and destroy their embryos.
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Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Gay Couple Challenges IRS over Medical Deductions
A gay couple in Florida is suing the IRS for denying their medical deductions for surrogacy and IVF.
According to Tampa Online,
Is being gay, in a long-term committed relationship, the same as being biologically infertile?
That’s the argument being made by a Stetson law professor in a lawsuit against the federal government.
Joseph F. Morrissey, who teaches constitutional and business law at Stetson, is seeking to overturn a ruling by the Internal Revenue Service that denied him and his partner a tax deduction. The deduction would have been for costs associated with their use of in-vitro fertilization and a surrogate who gave birth to their twin sons.
An IRS revenue agent who denied the claim said Morrissey’s sexual orientation was a “choice,” according to the lawsuit filed in U.S. District Court in Tampa.
Although there have been unsuccessful legal challenges to these deduction denials for gay men, Davis told The Tampa Tribune that Morrissey’s lawsuit makes a different legal argument — that being gay and in a committed relationship is the same as being medically infertile.
“I think it pushes the issue more clearly than perhaps was argued in (a previous case). It’s going to push the (IRS) to address this issue of, ‘Look I may not be infertile as defined by your standards historically or even as defined by medical textbooks, but the bare reality is that I can’t have a child without some type of costs that derive from the opposite gender.’ ’’
We also think that it is about time that the IRS catch up with the realities of real life – gay or straight.
Read more here about the gay couple suing the IRS over medical deductions.
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Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Marriott Surrogate Employee Sues
A surrogate employed by Marriott hotels is suing her employer over her inability to take lactation breaks while working.
According to Slate Magazine,
Marriott employee in California is suing the hotel chain for discrimination under both state and federal law, alleging that Marriott denied her legally mandated lactation breaks. Marriott says it was not required by law to give plaintiff Mary Gonzales, a cashier and accountant at the LAX Marriott, breaks to pump breast milk because Gonzales is a gestational surrogate, not a mother with an infant at home.
As a surrogate, Gonzales gave birth in April 2014 and, upon returning to work in June, took two 30-minute breaks each day to pump breast milk to send to the child’s parents. Once her obligation to send milk to that family ended at the end of the month, she decided to continue pumping for the “personal health benefits” of lactation and to donate to the Preemies Milk Bank and women who are unable to breastfeed. Gonzales alleges that her boss told her she could continue taking lactation breaks for another 30 days; when those 30 days were up, she began using her 30-minute lunch break instead, and ate lunch during her 10-minute morning rest break. As a result, Gonzales says, she suffered from clogged ducts, breast pain, blisters, and loss of sleep as she had to pump at night.
What many are questioning is should this be covered under the law? As the response from Marriott stated, “personal health benefits’ of lactation—which it compares to ‘exercising during the workday’—is unfounded.” What are your thoughts on this case?
Read more here about the Pregnant Surrogate Employed by Marriott Suing over Lactation Breaks.
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Sad Surrogacy News for Million Dollar Listing Agent Fredrik Eklund
It looks like a sad ending to wonderful news from Fredrik Eklund of Bravo’s Million Dollar Listing. Eklund, who announced earlier this year that his surrogate with husband, Derek Kaplan, was expecting twins now has some unfortunate news – his surrogate miscarried.
At Conceptual Options we know that miscarriage is a sad reality in our daily life, but that still does not lessen the blow when it happens to you. Best wishes to Fredrik Eklund and his husband, Derek. We certainly hope that the future holds a little girl for you both.
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Egg Donation – Becoming an Egg Donor Explained
One of our concerns here at Conceptual Options is whether or not we have provided enough information to a prospective egg donor when she contacts our office. In response to these concerns, we included information on our site that will help women of all ages understand the Conceptual Options’ Egg Donation Process.
In addition, we have also included Informational Egg Donation Videos and informative Egg Donation Newsletters that help explain to what it actually takes to become an egg donor and how to explain your decision to others.
Feel free to contact our office directly or via our website at the Egg Donor Application. Let us know what you think!
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Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Pregnant Chicken???
What a pregnant chicken? Who knew – but this site at Pregnant Chicken is awesome because it addresses how having a toddler and being pregnant can cramp your style. And, because we here at Conceptual Options are all about pregnancy and surrogacy, we think our surrogates will easily find this site helpful.
According to Pregnant Chicken,
Did anyone else think their second pregnancy would be easier than the first? I guess I thought I’d be an expert and so I was all, OH I GOT THIS. Ah, how naive. I didn’t take into account that there was a toddler around who didn’t give a rat’s ass that I was growing a new life. Kristin sent us this guest post and I remembered how many things were so much harder the second time around.
I’ve been lucky enough to have two “normal” pregnancies with no complications so far, and for that I am thankful. But, I will not lie, this second pregnancy has been much harder than my first. Maybe it’s because I just blocked out some of the less-glamorous aspects of being pregnant from my memory after the first time, or maybe it’s because I now have an energetic little toddler running around 24/7. Either way, the simple, small tasks of everyday life have become increasingly more and more difficult when you have a toddler and a baby bump.
Read more here at Pregnant Chicken, and let us know what you think.
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Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: Experts Warn of “Designer Babies”
Experts are asking for a public debate on Gene Editing, which many believe creates many ethical issues – including critics warning of “designer babies.”
According to Reuters,
Medical researchers called on Wednesday for detailed, thoughtful debate on future use of new genetic technology that has the potential to create “designer babies”.
The technology, called CRISPR-Cas9, allows scientists to edit virtually any gene they target, including in human embryos, enabling them to find and change or replace genetic defects.
Describing CRISPR as “game-changing”, the Wellcome Trust global medical charity and four other leading British research organisations urged the scientific community to proceed considerately, allowing time and space for ethical debate.
“This raises important ethical and regulatory questions which need to be anticipated and explored in a timely and inclusive manner,” they said in a joint statement.
Wellcome’s senior policy adviser Katherine Littler added: “It’s essential we start these discussions early … involving scientists, ethicists, doctors, regulators, patients and their families and the wider public.”
No matter how this all plays out, a discussion is an important part of any new technology. Read more here about Gene Editing & the Potential for Designer Babies.
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Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: China’s Ban on Egg Freezing Becoming National Debate
Many women in China are in a outrage over the Chinese government’s ban on egg freezing for single women who want to preserve their fertility. As they rightly should be, if you ask us.
According to Quartz,
If only it were equally simple for women in China to store their eggs—a hot topic since local media reported on several celebrities who, concerned about their age or the quality of their ova, have had their eggs frozen to allow them to delay motherhood. Of particular concern to Chinese women: The celebrities traveled abroad to escape strict laws on egg freezing; in China, married women face many restrictions on freezing their eggs, and the process is entirely closed to single women.
China’s ban on freezing eggs is officially in place to prevent an illegal ova trade but—unfortunately for many—freezing eggs is also against the interests of the state. In recent years the government has been trying to encourage women to give birth, rather than to put off motherhood, and freezing eggs could act against that…
The ACWF also ended its report on the topic with quotes from a gynecology doctor at the respected Fudan University, who detailed the dangers of storing eggs, and added: “I would suggest that healthy women have children rather than store eggs as an ‘insurance policy.’”
Interesting discussion on the concept of egg freezing, and one that we are also dealing with here in the US on a different level – not one that includes a ban, but one that questions if a woman should delay childbirth for her career. Read more here about China’s Ban on Egg Freezing.
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Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: When Do I Ovulate?
Thanks to our guest blogger, Marcy Coning, who submitted this post to us for release. This post is important, not just for women trying to get pregnant, but it is also important for any woman to know and understand her cycles.
Determining when you ovulate is a vital factor if you need to know when you are more likely to get pregnant. This is very important and helpful for women who are trying to conceive, and can also be somewhat helpful for women who are trying not to get pregnant. Regardless of their choice, women asking themselves; “When do I ovulate?”, will surely benefit from their introspection.
Knowing when you ovulate has other advantages too. Some you may not have even considered before. Most women only think about ovulation as it pertains to pregnancy. Consider some other (lesser known) reasons that women should be aware of their ovulation cycles and feel free to take a peek at these interesting articles on our site…
Why Know When I Ovulate?
When a woman understands her cycle and her body, she is able to take better care of herself and understand the needs of her body. This way, she is more in control of what her nutritional needs are, as well as emotional needs. Some types of natural birth control methods use ovulation predictions as a way to avoid pregnancy for those who do not want to use synthetic hormones or barrier methods.
Knowing your ovulation schedule is most commonly related to getting pregnant, or not getting pregnant. But if you read those articles linked to above, you’ll learn how a woman’s beauty, radiance and even self-confidence are actually related to when she ovulates.
The planning your wedding… article talks about how a woman is most beautiful during ovulation and how she may want to plan her wedding accordingly. And this could go both ways. Maybe she wants to look and feel her best on her wedding day. But at the same time, her and her new husband may not want to get pregnant at the very beginning of their marriage. Either way, knowing when she ovulates can play a very important role in when to schedule this very important day.
In the get asked out on more dates… article – it mentions the association between attraction and confidence. When you are ovulating you are more attractive. When you feel more attractive you have more confidence. The article talks about how to use that confidence to attract more dates. But if you don’t want or need more dates, consider using your newly discovered confidence for one of several reasons…
- make a good impression in a job interview
- negotiate a better deal for a major purchase (like a new car)
- convince your spouse or significant other to see things your way
- or any other reason you may need a boost in confidence
Read more here from Marcy Coning on When Do I Ovulate?
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