Conceptual Options Surrogacy Update: In the Defense of Surrogacy Part II

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Update: In the Defense of Surrogacy Part II

Last week we posted Perez Hilton’s announcement on the birth of his second child via surrogacy, and how he felt that surrogacy should be legalized all over the country.   So, today, we wanted to take it a step further and post some thoughts written by one of our awesome employees here at Conceptual Options.

There are those that say that Surrogacy is not only morally wrong, but it should be outlawed because it exploits women, specifically women that are Surrogates. They say that Surrogates are not being treated as people, but as “breeders” or “wombs for sale.” In essence, they are saying that Surrogates are being exploited for their bodies.

However, what these critics fail to realize is that Surrogacy is about helping someone have the child(ren) that they always wanted and were unable to have on their own. Surrogates are not being exploited for their wombs, quite the opposite actually. These women are giving these infertile people the gift of life, the family that they have always wanted and could never have.

Of course, these critics do not see it that way, because they are being paternalistic and believe that women who want to become Surrogates do not understand the gravity of their actions and need to be “protected” from being used. If this were a third world country that argument might have merit, but here in the United States Surrogates are not destitute women doing anything they can to get by; in the United States Surrogates are smart, caring mothers who want to help people or couples who are unable to have children of their own experience the joy and unconditional love of a child.

And yes, there have been negative aspects to Surrogacy in the United States, but that is a small minority of experiences far outweighed by all of the good that Surrogacy and the women who are Surrogates have brought about. But all these critics want to talk about is the small minority, the negative, instead of looking at any of the positive aspects of Surrogacy.

We should be championing the heartening aspects of Surrogacy, giving the same if not more weight to all of the good that Surrogacy and Surrogates have done. Lets think of those now…Think of all of the children and families that have been created through the help of Surrogate mothers. Think of all of the dreams that have come true because a family is finally complete. Think of all the heartbreak and heartache that has been eased because a Surrogate helped the ultimate dream come true, a child. Think of the swell of unconditional love that a parent feels upon first meeting their child. Think of the wholeness that a child brings to a family. For some families, these thoughts would not be a reality without a Surrogate.

We hope you enjoy.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News - Defense of Surrogacy

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News – Defense of Surrogacy

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Perez Hilton & the Defense of Surrogacy

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Perez Hilton & the Defense of Surrogacy

Perez Hilton, celebrity blogger, is certainly not the first celebrity to have his child via surrogacy; but, this week’s announcement of the birth of his daughter, Mia Alma, brought him front and center to the defense of surrogacy.  We applaud his decision to make certain that those against surrogacy hear his voice.

According to Perez Hilton,

This is what I’ve dreamed of my whole life.

This dream of being a parent is something that many Americans share. Gay AND straight Americans both use surrogacy to start or add to their families. Yet, in many states, surrogacy is illegal.

As the Supreme Court is ready to make their landmark decision on same-sex marriage, I feel the need to get political and urge all politicians to please make surrogacy legal nationwide.

The dream I’m living is one that everyone should be able to live!

Having said that, my brain is mush right now. I am blissfully afflicted with baby brain and so relieved that my soul, Mia Alma, is here.

My son was born 4 weeks prematurely in 2013. So for the last month I’ve been living on edge and filled with a lot of anxiety.

That anxiety has not completely gone away, but my heart has been filled with so much more love!

Love is what matters most!

Well, said Perez!!

Conceptual Options & the Defense of Surrogacy

Conceptual Options & the Defense of Surrogacy

Conceptual Options Fertility & Surrogacy News: China’s Rising Infertility Furthers Population Crisis

Conceptual Options Fertility & Surrogacy News: China’s Rising Infertility Furthers Population Crisis & Illegal Surrogacy

The continuing decline in fertility rates in China, which are the highest in the world, are fueling an illegal surrogacy industry in China, according to Shanghai’s China Business News.  In fact, the infertility rate in the country has reached an all-time high in 2015. Statistics have shown that the 1-3 percent rate of infertility in the 1970s has skyrocketed to 10 percent today, even reaching 18 percent in some areas.

According to Yibada, the causes for this decline in fertility include the widespread use of toxic pesticides in crops; severe air, water and soil pollution; the recent trend of marrying much later in life; and, the high abortion rate in the country.  The result?  Couples finding surrogates in China to carry a baby for them.

However, all of these studies have not changed the government’s stance on illegal surrogacy, as Shanghai’s China Business News reports, a crackdown has been instigated this month with the aim to stop the problem of illegal surrogacy altogether.
Conceptual Options Surrogacy China

Conceptual Options Surrogacy China

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency News: Intended Parent via Surrogacy Testimonial

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency News: Intended Parent via Surrogacy Testimonial

Here at Conceptual Options we were fortunate to have a wonderful couple prepare a testimonial of their surrogacy journey.  Their story is as follows:

Why I Chose Conceptual Options as My Surrogacy Agency to Create my Family

When my husband and I realized that we had to use a surrogate to create our family, we were devastated and confused at the same time.  There were many Southern California agencies and clinics that claimed to have surrogates waiting to be matched.  Well, for the most part that was not actually the case – most agencies either have no qualified, available surrogates or they have a six to nine month waiting list.  So, what is an Intended Parent to do?  Ultimately, we decided to select Conceptual Options to locate and select our surrogate after months of research.

Why Conceptual Options?  Because they have been in business since 1999 (for over 16 years!), have an excellent reputation that is above all others in the industry, and the staff is with you every step of the way in your journey to creating a family.  In addition, they have a staff that includes three psychologists that creates a program like no other agency or clinic in this industry.  Besides, we had the option you can pay another agency’s retainer and wait however
long that it takes until a surrogate that meets our criteria becomes available with that agency.  But, how long would that take?   And, what is the incentive for the agency to make certain that you are at the front of the line when they have other Intended Parents that have not signed their retainer yet?  Both answers are unknown and a scary prospect for any Intended Parent.

And, what about the six to nine month waiting lists?  Said surrogacy agency may be upfront about having a wait for surrogates, whereby you pay your first installment on the services retainer (often in excess of $10,000.00) and then get placed on their waiting list.   But what many Intended Parents do not realize is that most of these agency agreements place you on a list for the next available surrogate that the agency deems a good surrogate for you.  And, what if you decide not to work with the surrogate chosen for you?  Are you the next in line or are you at the back of the line again?   My husband and I were not willing to wait for the agency to decide for us or select us as next in line.

So, what does this all mean to you?  You wait and you wait while other agencies may have a surrogate that you would like to use to help create your family.  Why limit yourself by signing up and paying a substantial fee to be put on a waiting list and be provided the surrogate that they feel is best for you?  And why reject that woman, if you are then put on the bottom of the list?  It is a great business model for the surrogacy agency, but this is not in your best interest, nor that of your future family.

You should feel control in a situation where much of your control has been taken from you.  Yes, anything can happen along the way at any surrogacy agency, as in life, but why relinquish control when you don’t have to.  Be an active participant in your journey to creating your family.  And, that’s what we did – we selected Conceptual Options.  You should too.

Thank you to Conceptual Options and our wonderful surrogate.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Selecting an Agency

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Selecting an Agency

Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: Sofia Vergara and the Great Embryo Debate

Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: Sofia Vergara and the Great Embryo Debate

Apparently, Sophia Vergara from the show Modern Families is now being sued by her ex-fiancee, Nick Loeb, over the disposition of their remaining two frozen embryos.

According to CNN,

She’s one of the hottest and most successful Latinas in Hollywood, but now Sofia Vergara is playing defense in a legal battle initiated by her ex-fiance: He wants to keep the two frozen embryos from their relationship, both female…

Loeb is suing the Colombian-born actress in Los Angeles to prevent Vergara from destroying their two embryos conceived through in vitro fertilization in November 2013, according to published reports by New York Daily News and In Touch magazine.

The lawsuit cited by the two publications, however, lists the plaintiff as “Joe Doe” and the defendant as “Jane Doe.” The suit doesn’t identify the names of the actual litigants.

According to the legal paperwork, the ex-couple had already used two surrogate mothers, one being a close friend of Jane Doe’s, in an attempt to have children.

However, neither of the implantations was successful….

Owen says the lawsuit reportedly filed by Loeb will now open new issues, and a California court will have to decide to whom the embryos belong.

“These embryos are not inside her body,” he said. “They are in a nitrogen tank in a clinic in Beverly Hills, so there the Planned Parenthood of Central Missouri vs. Danforth case cannot be used by the Sofia Vergara team to allege that the (embryos) would present some danger to her health as they did in that case.”

Read more here about Sofia Vergara and the Great Embryo Debate.

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Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Sofia Vergara & Embryo Debate

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency News: India Surrogacy Industry Dark Side Shown on HBO Vice

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency News: India Surrogacy Industry Dark Side Shown on HBO Vice

According to the Daily Mail,

When journalist Gianna Toboni traveled to India to explore the country’s rapidly growing, yet unregulated, gestational surrogacy industry for HBO documentary series Vice, she didn’t anticipate ‘how dark’ the story would get.

For nearly two years, the producer and host has been reporting on current issues across the globe and has covered everything from the detention center at Guantanamo Bay to the effect of climate change on polar bears – but nothing could have prepared her for the moment when someone offered to sell her a baby over dinner while she was working undercover in India. 

‘It was the most heartbreaking experience that I ever had,’ Gianna told Daily Mail Online.  

But the heartbreak did not end there.

As Gianna quickly learned during her time working on the Outsourcing Embryos documentary, surrogacy in India is a multi-million dollar business, and one which is made all the more lucrative by the high number of American couples traveling to the country in order to use the services provided by one or more of the ‘embryo outsourcing’ agencies featured in the Vice documentary.

Here at Conceptual Options, we hate to see this sort of story, but it is important for Intended Parents to understand that saving money is not always the best route to take when creating your family via third party reproduction.
Conceptual Options Surrogacy News - India Surrogacy Industry

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News – India Surrogacy Industry

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Partnering for Parenthood With You

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Partnering for Parenthood With You

Conceptual Options is in its 16th year of business, and throughout that time we have maintained a high level of confidentiality, as well as professionalism and compassion to all of our intended parents trying to achieve a pregnancy.

We are dedicated to helping build your family through surrogacy, egg donation and sperm donation – regardless of your location, marital status, or sexual orientation.

Conceptual Options has the experience and reputation to fully assist and oversee your successful egg donation, sperm donation, or surrogacy arrangement by minimizing risks in your most precious investment.

We should know – we have been making families a reality since 1999.

For more information about how Conceptual Options can help you create your family, please go to our website at www.conceptualoptions.com or call us directly at 858.748.4222.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy & Egg Donation Agency

Conceptual Options Surrogacy & Egg Donation Agency

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Dolce and Gabbana Boycott for Their Controversial Views

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Dolce and Gabbana Boycott for Their Controversial Views

Italian designers, Dolce and Gabbana caused quite a stir this week when they were quoted as saying that children should only be created out of love between a man and a woman and that children created via IVF and surrogacy were synthetic. In fact, the quote is detailed here,

“You are born to a mother and a father. Or at least that’s how it should be,” Dolce said. “I call children of chemistry, synthetic children. Rented wombs, semen chosen from a catalog.”

And Elton John, Madonna and many others celebs have fired back at their “archaic thinking.”  John stated the following,

“How dare you refer to my beautiful children as ‘synthetic,'” John wrote in an Instagram post on Sunday. “And shame on you for wagging your judgmental little fingers at IVF – a miracle that has allowed legions of loving people, both straight and gay, to fulfill their dream of having children.”

What do you think?  Do they all have the right to give their opinions?  Is a boycott in order?  Elton John certainly thinks so.

Read more here about the boycott heard around the world.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News - Dolce and Gabbana Boycott for Synthetic Babies

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News – Dolce and Gabbana Boycott for Synthetic Babies

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Kim Kardashian Reveals Surrogacy Plans

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Kim Kardashian Reveals Surrogacy Plans

According to Kim Kardashian in a new episode of Keeping Up with the Kardashians, she may need to use a surrogate to have her next child with husband, Kanye West.  Although we here at Conceptual Options know how hard it is for someone to make this decision, Kim Kardashian’s visability and

According to the Mirror,

Kim Kardashian has revealed that she may have to use a surrogate for her next child.

The reality TV superstar – who is married to rapper Kanye West – made the frank admission on the new episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians.

Spending the premiere episode ‘exhausted’ due to the frequent attempts to get pregnant the old fashioned way, Kim admitted that she was ‘moody’ due to all the sex and she might have to use the services of a surrogate.

At the end of the episode, Kim openly admitted that she “might have to try a surrogate.”

Read more here about Kim Kardashian’s surrogacy plans.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Kim Kardashian

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Kim Kardashian

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Becoming a Surrogate

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Becoming a Surrogate

“With my short life I am changing the lives of families for the better. I don’t know what you are doing with your life, but this is what I’m doing with mine.” 
-A Conceptual Options surrogate

Being a surrogate is not something that everyone may want to do, and it is definitely not something that everyone can do, especially if you are a surrogate for Conceptual Options.   At Conceptual Options only about 4% of all women that apply to become a surrogate are chosen for their program, but considering that a surrogate is someone who will be
carrying a child (or children) for someone else,  it is a big commitment.

Conceptual Options has a rigorous vetting process for every woman that applies to become a surrogate with their agency; to begin a potential surrogate must have previously delivered at least one healthy child without any complications during her pregnancy. While also be willing to be completely committed to their potential intended parents and adhere to Conceptual Options strict screening and counseling protocols. Which includes a lengthy
application with in person interviews, psychological testing, psychological evaluation, infectious disease screening, medical records evaluation, and a criminal background check.

If you think you are prepared to undergo these evaluations and screening process, Conceptual Options’ staff will guide you through the entire process making sure that you are well informed and comfortable the entire time.  After all, becoming a surrogate is a huge commitment not only because of the time and physical commitment, but also the
mental commitment.  And Conceptual Options wants to ensure that your experience is the true five star experience that we strive for every single day.

Conceptual Options - Becoming a Surrogate

Conceptual Options – Becoming a Surrogate