Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency News: Social Surrogacy – It is really not all that surprising that some women want to be mothers but do not want to go through the actual physical act of being pregnant and giving birth.
Reasons as to why some women say they do not want to be pregnant – aside from medical reasons – vary greatly. For example, some women are in the prime of their careers, they have spent countless hours dedicated to their education and profession and do not want to lose out on that upcoming promotion or project that will take them to the top. Some are Hollywood actresses or models who have spent their entire lives pursuing their dream, and losing their shapes or disappearing from the public eye, even for a few months, could possibly mean losing everything they have worked for. Some women actually have a fear of carrying a child, a fear so intense that Psychologists have a name for it: tokophobia. And for others, well they simply do not want to be pregnant.
For these women, social surrogacy is a viable alternative – they want to be mothers; they just do not want to be pregnant.
From working in this industry, one thing I have learned is that the love a mother and child share goes beyond the bond created in the womb. This is evidenced not only by step-children, foster children and adopted children but also by children born via surrogacy. I think it is fair to say that these children do not love their parents any less than genetically related children love their parents. I do not buy the idea that giving birth to a child makes the love between the birth mother and child any stronger or more valid than the love shared between a child and non-birth mother.
In the wake of a potential American female president, now more than ever, women are looking to have it all. Today science and technology are affording women that opportunity – the opportunity and means to create their own family on their own terms. Elective procedures such as egg freezing and surrogacy are giving women freedom and options.
Social surrogacy is not for everyone. And just because social surrogacy is a possibility, it does not mean every woman will go down this path and not to want to carry her own child. It is simply an option, and for some women this option will help their dreams of motherhood become reality.
Saira Jhutty, PhD
CEO Conceptual Options, LLC