Conceptual Options Surrogacy: Working While Pregnant & the Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options Surrogacy: Working While Pregnant & the Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options’ staff has found a few blogs that we think are awesome information centers – no matter if this is your first child or last or you are a surrogate or an intended mother.  For starters, this delightful blog, Life is Really Easy, is written by Queen Calm, an anonymous mother-to-be who is looking forward to meeting her son this fall. She blogs about life, books, and all her glamorous moments throughout pregnancy and motherhood.  Plenty of great resources and funny humor.

In fact, this blogger (Queen Calm) has even guest posted on a site called the Pregnant Chicken, yes, it is what you think it is – and it started in 2010 so that women can share their experiences during pregnancy and beyond.  This is another great resource for discussing things such as working while pregnant and helpful places to visit and antedotes to share.

Read more here about Life is Really Easy and the Pregnant Chicken.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Resources & Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Resources & Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: China’s Ban on Egg Freezing Becoming National Debate

Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: China’s Ban on Egg Freezing Becoming National Debate

Many women in China are in a outrage over the Chinese government’s ban on egg freezing for single women who want to preserve their fertility.  As they rightly should be, if you ask us.

According to Quartz,

If only it were equally simple for women in China to store their eggs—a hot topic since local media reported on several celebrities who, concerned about their age or the quality of their ova, have had their eggs frozen to allow them to delay motherhood. Of particular concern to Chinese women: The celebrities traveled abroad to escape strict laws on egg freezing; in China, married women face many restrictions on freezing their eggs, and the process is entirely closed to single women.

China’s ban on freezing eggs is officially in place to prevent an illegal ova trade but—unfortunately for many—freezing eggs is also against the interests of the state. In recent years the government has been trying to encourage women to give birth, rather than to put off motherhood, and freezing eggs could act against that…

The ACWF also ended its report on the topic with quotes from a gynecology doctor at the respected Fudan University, who detailed the dangers of storing eggs, and added: “I would suggest that healthy women have children rather than store eggs as an ‘insurance policy.’”

Interesting discussion on the concept of egg freezing, and one that we are also dealing with here in the US on a different level – not one that includes a ban, but one that questions if a woman should delay childbirth for her career. Read more here about China’s Ban on Egg Freezing.

Conceptual Options News: Egg Freezing Ban China

Conceptual Options News: Egg Freezing Ban China

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: The Real Face of Surrogacy

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: The Real Face of Surrogacy

At Conceptual Options all of us have come across friends and family that know nothing about surrogacy.  But, we have also found out over the years that what we often come across people who could really benefit from surrogacy but were always to afraid to ask – until now.  Well, that just happened to one of our staff members last week.  She sat down with friends for dinner that she hasn’t seen in almost a year, and they got right down to business, so to speak.

A little back story on this couple, they have been trying to have a baby for over 10 years. They have tried it all from holistic medicine to IVF. Their savings is quickly dwindling, as fertility treatments can be quite expensive, and they are tired. They are over it. They just want a baby. They wanted to know if Conceptual Options could do to help.

They were ready to start today. They weren’t afraid of the cost, they understood all the medical risks .. what they were afraid of was related to all the negative stories they have been seeing the last few days about Baby Gammy. Could the surrogate decide to keep their baby? Could she prevent them from being with their child?

She told them, just as with anything in life, there are never any guarantees, however there are certain precautions they can take to ensure a safe, healthy and happy surrogacy journey. Not all surrogacy stories are negative, in fact I can list hundreds of positive stories as well.

Deciding to use a surrogate to build your family is the hardest part. Once you decide, you need to start doing your research. Find an agency that you feel comfortable with, ask yourself what type of relationship do you want with your surrogate, what type of experience are you looking for – do you want to be fully involved or do you want to take a hands off approach? And understand that the process is costly. Agency fees, surrogate compensation, psychological evaluation fee, health insurance, IVF costs, attorney fees, court fees.. they all add up. So be prepared.

Our recommendation to them was to interview three different agencies, speak to three different reproductive attorney’s and three different IVF doctors. Then go with the agency they feel most comfortable with, one that matches their style and aligns with their values.

Do your research, ask questions, be involved and be patient. Surrogacy is and can be a beautiful, life changing event for everyone. We all just need to work together to make sure it stays that way.

*Note that all parties approved of our disclosure of their story.

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Conceptual Options Surrogacy Options

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: California Parents Fighting for Parental Rights for Baby Born via Surrogacy in Mexico

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: California Parents Fighting for Parental Rights for Baby Born via Surrogacy in Mexico

A couple from San Jose, California, decided to head to Mexico to save money on surrogacy in the small town of Tabasco, reportedly the only Mexican state where surrogacy is legal. But according to the Amirehs, the laws suddenly changed around the time when Grayson was born on April 16 and they’re unable to get the birth certificate for him that’s required to secure a passport for the trip to the United States.

According to the SFGate,

A San Jose family turned to a surrogate in Mexico when they were unable to have children of their own. Now, Haseeb and Christy Amireh are fighting to bring their newborn baby, Grayson, back to America…

“There are still agencies taking … intended parents, like us, so we’d like to get the word out,” Haseeb told CBS News

U.S. Rep. Eric Swalwell, D-California, told KPIX-TV, “From what we learned, the governor in that state has put a moratorium on all birth certificates for surrogate families … I think this just highlights why it’s really important to understand the laws of any country that you’re traveling to to make a health care decision.”

Read more here about the importance of knowing the laws of the country for your journey to creating a family.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Mexico Fight

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Mexico Fight

Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: The Ethics of Sofia Vergara’s Embryo Dispute

Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: The Ethics of Sofia Vergara’s Embryo Dispute

Interesting video on Fox News regarding Sofia Vergara.  Click on link below to view.

Sofia Vergara Embryo Dispute

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Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Sofia Vergara & Embryo Debate

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency News: Intended Parent via Surrogacy Testimonial

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency News: Intended Parent via Surrogacy Testimonial

Here at Conceptual Options we were fortunate to have a wonderful couple prepare a testimonial of their surrogacy journey.  Their story is as follows:

Why I Chose Conceptual Options as My Surrogacy Agency to Create my Family

When my husband and I realized that we had to use a surrogate to create our family, we were devastated and confused at the same time.  There were many Southern California agencies and clinics that claimed to have surrogates waiting to be matched.  Well, for the most part that was not actually the case – most agencies either have no qualified, available surrogates or they have a six to nine month waiting list.  So, what is an Intended Parent to do?  Ultimately, we decided to select Conceptual Options to locate and select our surrogate after months of research.

Why Conceptual Options?  Because they have been in business since 1999 (for over 16 years!), have an excellent reputation that is above all others in the industry, and the staff is with you every step of the way in your journey to creating a family.  In addition, they have a staff that includes three psychologists that creates a program like no other agency or clinic in this industry.  Besides, we had the option you can pay another agency’s retainer and wait however
long that it takes until a surrogate that meets our criteria becomes available with that agency.  But, how long would that take?   And, what is the incentive for the agency to make certain that you are at the front of the line when they have other Intended Parents that have not signed their retainer yet?  Both answers are unknown and a scary prospect for any Intended Parent.

And, what about the six to nine month waiting lists?  Said surrogacy agency may be upfront about having a wait for surrogates, whereby you pay your first installment on the services retainer (often in excess of $10,000.00) and then get placed on their waiting list.   But what many Intended Parents do not realize is that most of these agency agreements place you on a list for the next available surrogate that the agency deems a good surrogate for you.  And, what if you decide not to work with the surrogate chosen for you?  Are you the next in line or are you at the back of the line again?   My husband and I were not willing to wait for the agency to decide for us or select us as next in line.

So, what does this all mean to you?  You wait and you wait while other agencies may have a surrogate that you would like to use to help create your family.  Why limit yourself by signing up and paying a substantial fee to be put on a waiting list and be provided the surrogate that they feel is best for you?  And why reject that woman, if you are then put on the bottom of the list?  It is a great business model for the surrogacy agency, but this is not in your best interest, nor that of your future family.

You should feel control in a situation where much of your control has been taken from you.  Yes, anything can happen along the way at any surrogacy agency, as in life, but why relinquish control when you don’t have to.  Be an active participant in your journey to creating your family.  And, that’s what we did – we selected Conceptual Options.  You should too.

Thank you to Conceptual Options and our wonderful surrogate.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Selecting an Agency

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Selecting an Agency

Conceptual Options IVF News: How One Woman Judged Other Women Using IVF

Conceptual Options IVF News: How One Woman Judged Other Women Using IVF

We just found this deeply touching article in Time magazine that explains how one woman chose to go through IVF so soon after her mother died of cancer.  In fact, she also talks about the stigma that goes along with IVF by describing her own judgment against those using IVF.

According to Times Magazine and Beth Ford Roth,

Word gets around when you’ve had IVF, and I often get asked for advice from friends, and friends of friends, whether in vitro is really worth it – worth the steep price tag, the physical pain, the emotional roller coaster. Despite my less than ideal experience with IVF, I tell these women it is their opportunity to take control of their bodies and their desire for a family.

I cringe at the thought of how judgmental I used to be toward women who had their children through IVF. In my 20s, I viewed celebrities as terribly selfish to undergo expensive fertility treatments when (I believed) there were so many adoptable babies who needed homes.

But there are no guarantees with adoption. A birth mother can change her mind. With international adoption (an avenue we pursued for a year) timetables change and foreign governments can alter the rules in the middle of the process. There’s also the completely natural desire to have a child that carries on your family’s traits. I often dreamed that my baby would have my mother’s warm, cat-shaped brown eyes, or my husband’s fierce intellect.

It is funny how experience changes one’s perspective.

Read more here about Beth Ann Roth and her past judgment against IVF.

Conceptual Options IVF News

Conceptual Options IVF News

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency & Egg Donation Agency News: Ireland Moves to Ban Surrogacy

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency & Egg Donation Agency News: Ireland Moves to Ban Surrogacy

According to BioNews,

The Irish Minister for Health, Leo Varadkar, has announced there will be new draft legislation to regulate surrogacy in Ireland – five months after surrogacy provisions proposed in January last year were dropped from a Bill currently before the Oireachtas.

The proposals will form part of broader draft legislation on assisted conception to be introduced at a later date and include a simpler process for transferring parentage, as well as a ban on commercial surrogacy. There is currently no legislation regulating surrogacy in Ireland and intended mothers must adopt children born through surrogacy to become their legal parents, even if they use their own eggs.

Under the proposals, the birth mother will continue to be automatically listed on the child’s birth certificate, but the courts will be able to transfer parentage to the child’s genetic parents and the birth cert re-issued. The birth mother may retract her consent to transfer parentage anytime up until the point of transfer.

The proposals also include penalties for commercial surrogacy but will not disentitle the genetic child of two Irish parents the right to citizenship, even if they have used surrogacy services abroad. The fact that parents may engage in commercial surrogacy in another country is ‘not the fault of the child’, said Varadkar. He explained that penalties will apply to ‘middle men and the agents’ of commercial surrogacy.

Read more here about Ireland to ban surrogacy.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Ireland

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Ireland

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency News: Happy Lunar New Year to all of our Conceptual Options’ Families!

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency News: Happy Lunar New Year to all of our Conceptual Options’ Families!

Conceptual Options would like to wish everyone – our Egg Donors, our Intended Parents, our Surrogates, and our Families – a very Happy Lunar Year!

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Lunar New Year

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Lunar New Year

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Agency – Actress Ellen Pompeo Opens Up About Surrogacy

Conceptual Options Surrogacy AgencyActress Ellen Pompeo Opens Up About Surrogacy

Great story about how Grey’s Anatomy actress, Ellen Pompeo, kept her surrogacy process a secret.

“She was born two months ago,” Pompeo told Kimmel. “The mayor of New York City married us, and I kept that a secret for five days, too, I’ve done it before. The covert thing is kind of fun. This baby was born via surrogate, so I felt an obligation to keep the surrogate’s privacy. That was of utmost importance to me…”

Pompeo praised her surrogate, saying, “This is an incredible thing to do with your life, to give the gift of carrying someone’s child, so I am forever grateful and feel very blessed and grateful to her – she who will remain anonymous. I was there with her when they inseminated her and we held hands. I looked into the microscope and I saw the embryo, I saw the baby, and they put it in a thingy and they inseminated her. And then we held hands and we prayed, we talked to god, and if she was meant to be. He said he was going to try to help us out and now we have a gorgeous baby girl.”

Read more here about Actress Ellen Pompeo Opening Up About Surrogacy

 

Ellen Pompeo Surrogacy Secret

Ellen Pompeo Surrogacy Secret