Tyra Banks Welcomes Son via Surrogacy – Congrats is in Order
As we discussed here almost six months ago about Dolce & Gabbana’s comments against IVF and Surrogacy, Domenico Dolce caused a stir, with celebrities such as Ricki Martin, Elton John and others calling for a boycott of the company.
According to Cosmopolitan,
Six months ago, Domenico Dolce (or the Dolce half of design duo Dolce & Gabbana) surprised and offended many with his views on family: “We oppose gay adoptions,” he said in an interview with the Italian magazine Panorama. “The only family is the traditional one. No chemical offsprings and rented uterus: life has a natural flow, there are things that should not be changed.”
Dolce went on to say, “You are born to a mother and a father — or at least that’s how it should be. I call children of chemistry, synthetic children. Uteri [for] rent, semen chosen from a catalog.”
Elton John even started a hashtag of #boycottDolceGabbana.
But the article continued,
Now, after a period of “soul-searching,” Dolce is opening up about his feelings to Vogue. “I am so sorry,” he said. “It was not my intention to offend anyone.”
Dolce claims he has since changed his mind about this subject. “I’ve talked to Stefano [Gabbana] a lot about this,” Dolce said. “I’ve realized that my words were inappropriate, and I apologize. They are just kids. You don’t need labels, baby labels.”
Hmmm….baby labels? Well, we certainly hope that he continues on his journey to understanding.
Read more here about Domenico Dolce’s apology.
According to news reports out of France from last week, it appears that France has finally changed their tune regarding surrogacy births overseas. There have been many of our own clients over the years who have had to live in fear regarding the legal recognition of their children, but not any longer.
Time Magazine stated the following:
France’s highest court has granted legal recognition to surrogate children, in a major turnaround that will make their daily lives easier and could lead to greater acceptance of new forms of families.
The Cour de cassation ruled Friday that, while surrogacy will remain banned in France, children born abroad through this practice will now be legally tied to their parents and will be granted birth certificates and immediate means to prove their French citizenship…
Until now, surrogate children were deprived of any legal connection to their parents, or any civil status in France. They were considered as children born from unknown legal parents, since their foreign birth certificates weren’t recognized. One lawyer has described them as “ghosts of the republic.”
Unlike other children born abroad to a French parent, these children couldn’t get automatic ID cards or passports, or register for state health care or other services.
This exposed them to frequent problems, because many basic tasks are impossible in France without an ID or authorization from a legal parent.
Congrats to all of the parents in France who have been dealing with this issue for so long – Viva La France!!
We meet a lot of women who consider becoming a surrogate on a daily basis, but consideration goes only so far. You need to be a dedicated individual who knows what she wants and how she wants to get there. As with most of our Conceptual Options surrogates, many women are supplementing own income or they are using the money to allow themselves the ability to stay at home with their children. But, being a surrogate is not for everyone, nor should it be.
In fact, one of current surrogates just let us know that she is glad she decided to become a surrogate – and she is loving the ability it gives her to be at home with her kids.
Jenny, Jessica, Tina and Staff – thanks so much for the opportunity to join your group of wonderful surrogates at Conceptual Options. All of you there have given me the ability to stay at home and raise my kids. I know that it is not for everyone, but it works for me and my husband. Thank you again ! I am enjoying this entire experience beyond belief (although not so much in the morning with this morning sickness 🙂
Need we say more? Learn more about becoming a Super Surrogate at Conceptual Options here.
At Conceptual Options all of us have come across friends and family that know nothing about surrogacy. But, we have also found out over the years that what we often come across people who could really benefit from surrogacy but were always to afraid to ask – until now. Well, that just happened to one of our staff members last week. She sat down with friends for dinner that she hasn’t seen in almost a year, and they got right down to business, so to speak.
A little back story on this couple, they have been trying to have a baby for over 10 years. They have tried it all from holistic medicine to IVF. Their savings is quickly dwindling, as fertility treatments can be quite expensive, and they are tired. They are over it. They just want a baby. They wanted to know if Conceptual Options could do to help.
They were ready to start today. They weren’t afraid of the cost, they understood all the medical risks .. what they were afraid of was related to all the negative stories they have been seeing the last few days about Baby Gammy. Could the surrogate decide to keep their baby? Could she prevent them from being with their child?
She told them, just as with anything in life, there are never any guarantees, however there are certain precautions they can take to ensure a safe, healthy and happy surrogacy journey. Not all surrogacy stories are negative, in fact I can list hundreds of positive stories as well.
Deciding to use a surrogate to build your family is the hardest part. Once you decide, you need to start doing your research. Find an agency that you feel comfortable with, ask yourself what type of relationship do you want with your surrogate, what type of experience are you looking for – do you want to be fully involved or do you want to take a hands off approach? And understand that the process is costly. Agency fees, surrogate compensation, psychological evaluation fee, health insurance, IVF costs, attorney fees, court fees.. they all add up. So be prepared.
Our recommendation to them was to interview three different agencies, speak to three different reproductive attorney’s and three different IVF doctors. Then go with the agency they feel most comfortable with, one that matches their style and aligns with their values.
Do your research, ask questions, be involved and be patient. Surrogacy is and can be a beautiful, life changing event for everyone. We all just need to work together to make sure it stays that way.
*Note that all parties approved of our disclosure of their story.
For those of you who have been watching all of the media attention surrounding Kim Kardashian and her quest for a second baby, even if it involved using a surrogate – we have good news! Kim K is pregnant. We congratulate her and her family on the news. And, we are happy that she and her family were willing to share their fertility struggles before the cameras.
In news today it is clear that Kim Kardashian & Kanye West are having trouble having their second child – a heartbreak for anyone no matter who you are. But, they are considering the option of using a surrogate mother, as IVF has not yet worked for them at this point.
According to US Weekly,
There are a lot of ways to grow a family, and Kim Kardashian isn’t ruling out any of them. After unsuccessfully trying for a year to get pregnant again, the reality star is exploring other options with husband Kanye West — including surrogacy, a source reveals in the new issue of Us Weekly…
“Kim has been undergoing IVF,” the insider tells Us of Kardashian, 34, who welcomed daughter North West, 23 months, in June 2013, after a dramatic, difficult delivery. “It’s causing problems with her body.”…Indeed, as Keeping Up With the Kardashians fans saw on a recent episode, the star had to undergo a procedure to “clear something out of [her] uterus.” And on the May 31 show, she’ll reveal that an implanted embryo did not take.
The Equal Protection for All Families Act, authored by Assemblymember David Chiu and co-sponsored by Equality California, the National Center for Lesbian Rights, and Our Family Coalition, passed the California Assembly May 18 with unanimous support. The bill updates California assisted reproduction laws to help ensure that all families are protected equally under California law.
Conceptual Options applauds the efforts of Assemblymember David Chiu and those sponsoring this bill to ensure fairness to egg donors, sperm donors and the families that they help create in the great state of California.
According to LGBT Weekly,
AB 960, the Equal Protection For All Families Act, updates the state’s assisted reproduction laws to ensure all couples using assisted reproduction are fully recognized as parents as intended. Specifically, AB 960 would allow unmarried people using assisted reproduction to be fully recognized as parents on the same terms as married parents. Further, this bill would remove the requirement from family law that couples must involve a doctor when using assisted reproduction in order to ensure that the donor is not recognized as a parent. AB 960 also provides clear direction for how egg donors should be treated under California law. These important changes in the law will increase access to family building options by eliminating economic barriers.
Read more here about AB 960.
Last week we posted Perez Hilton’s announcement on the birth of his second child via surrogacy, and how he felt that surrogacy should be legalized all over the country. So, today, we wanted to take it a step further and post some thoughts written by one of our awesome employees here at Conceptual Options.
There are those that say that Surrogacy is not only morally wrong, but it should be outlawed because it exploits women, specifically women that are Surrogates. They say that Surrogates are not being treated as people, but as “breeders” or “wombs for sale.” In essence, they are saying that Surrogates are being exploited for their bodies.
However, what these critics fail to realize is that Surrogacy is about helping someone have the child(ren) that they always wanted and were unable to have on their own. Surrogates are not being exploited for their wombs, quite the opposite actually. These women are giving these infertile people the gift of life, the family that they have always wanted and could never have.
Of course, these critics do not see it that way, because they are being paternalistic and believe that women who want to become Surrogates do not understand the gravity of their actions and need to be “protected” from being used. If this were a third world country that argument might have merit, but here in the United States Surrogates are not destitute women doing anything they can to get by; in the United States Surrogates are smart, caring mothers who want to help people or couples who are unable to have children of their own experience the joy and unconditional love of a child.
And yes, there have been negative aspects to Surrogacy in the United States, but that is a small minority of experiences far outweighed by all of the good that Surrogacy and the women who are Surrogates have brought about. But all these critics want to talk about is the small minority, the negative, instead of looking at any of the positive aspects of Surrogacy.
We should be championing the heartening aspects of Surrogacy, giving the same if not more weight to all of the good that Surrogacy and Surrogates have done. Lets think of those now…Think of all of the children and families that have been created through the help of Surrogate mothers. Think of all of the dreams that have come true because a family is finally complete. Think of all the heartbreak and heartache that has been eased because a Surrogate helped the ultimate dream come true, a child. Think of the swell of unconditional love that a parent feels upon first meeting their child. Think of the wholeness that a child brings to a family. For some families, these thoughts would not be a reality without a Surrogate.
We hope you enjoy.
A couple from San Jose, California, decided to head to Mexico to save money on surrogacy in the small town of Tabasco, reportedly the only Mexican state where surrogacy is legal. But according to the Amirehs, the laws suddenly changed around the time when Grayson was born on April 16 and they’re unable to get the birth certificate for him that’s required to secure a passport for the trip to the United States.
According to the SFGate,
A San Jose family turned to a surrogate in Mexico when they were unable to have children of their own. Now, Haseeb and Christy Amireh are fighting to bring their newborn baby, Grayson, back to America…
“There are still agencies taking … intended parents, like us, so we’d like to get the word out,” Haseeb told CBS News…
U.S. Rep. Eric Swalwell, D-California, told KPIX-TV, “From what we learned, the governor in that state has put a moratorium on all birth certificates for surrogate families … I think this just highlights why it’s really important to understand the laws of any country that you’re traveling to to make a health care decision.”
Read more here about the importance of knowing the laws of the country for your journey to creating a family.