As we discussed on our Conceptual Options Blog last week, whether you are a Surrogate or carrying your own babies, a twin pregnancy changes everything you may have ever known about being pregnant. In fact, we have found a great article on the Scary Mommy blog that lists the top 10 reasons why a twin pregnancy is so different from a singleton pregnancy.
Here are the top 10 reasons:
1. Welcome to a high risk pregnancy.
2. Hello puke bucket!
3. Ultrasounds! Ultrasounds galore!
4. Maternity clothes are not made for multiples.
5. You will learn a new language.
7. Physics will play a larger role in your life than you ever thought possible.
8. Inappropriate questions, comments, and reactions from complete strangers.
9. Invest in an under belly support band.
There are definitely more than 10 reasons, but these are some of the best! Can you think of any advice for anyone pregnant with multiples?
Read more about twin pregnancy versus singleton pregnancy at the Scary Mommy Blog.
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Kim Kardashian is Exploring the Possibility of Surrogacy
As we discussed on our Conceptual Options blog last week, many celebrities, like Kim Kardashian, have explored the possibility of having a child through Surrogacy. It is absolutely important that they educate themselves on the entire process. Because, whether you are a celebrity or not, using Surrogacy to have a child is an in depth process that you should understand completely before diving in.
For example, you need to explore the pros and cons of using a Surrogacy agency rather than doing an independent Surrogacy; and to do that, you need to be educated. There are many places that you can turn to for this education. Whether it be an agency, the internet, or organizations like Resolve or ASRM.
If you use an agency, their staff should welcome every question that you may have and be able to explain the entire process to you.
Please do not hesitate to contact the staff at Conceptual Options if you have any questions regarding Surrogacy, Egg Donation, or Sperm Donation.
Conceptual Options Surrogacy: Kim Kardashian Surrogacy Possibility
Tyra Banks Welcomes Son via Surrogacy – Congrats is in Order
According to People Magazine, Tyra Banks has welcomed a son via surrogacy with her partner, Norwegian photographer Erik Asla. Congrats from Conceptual Options are in order for this new family!
Tyra Banks Welcomes Child via Surrogacy
Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Gay Couple Challenges IRS over Medical Deductions
A gay couple in Florida is suing the IRS for denying their medical deductions for surrogacy and IVF.
According to Tampa Online,
Is being gay, in a long-term committed relationship, the same as being biologically infertile?
That’s the argument being made by a Stetson law professor in a lawsuit against the federal government.
Joseph F. Morrissey, who teaches constitutional and business law at Stetson, is seeking to overturn a ruling by the Internal Revenue Service that denied him and his partner a tax deduction. The deduction would have been for costs associated with their use of in-vitro fertilization and a surrogate who gave birth to their twin sons.
An IRS revenue agent who denied the claim said Morrissey’s sexual orientation was a “choice,” according to the lawsuit filed in U.S. District Court in Tampa.
Although there have been unsuccessful legal challenges to these deduction denials for gay men, Davis told The Tampa Tribune that Morrissey’s lawsuit makes a different legal argument — that being gay and in a committed relationship is the same as being medically infertile.
“I think it pushes the issue more clearly than perhaps was argued in (a previous case). It’s going to push the (IRS) to address this issue of, ‘Look I may not be infertile as defined by your standards historically or even as defined by medical textbooks, but the bare reality is that I can’t have a child without some type of costs that derive from the opposite gender.’ ’’
We also think that it is about time that the IRS catch up with the realities of real life – gay or straight.
Read more here about the gay couple suing the IRS over medical deductions.
Conceptual Options Surrogacy News Gay Couple Sues IRS
Conceptual Options Surrogacy: Working While Pregnant & the Pregnant Chicken
Conceptual Options’ staff has found a few blogs that we think are awesome information centers – no matter if this is your first child or last or you are a surrogate or an intended mother. For starters, this delightful blog, Life is Really Easy, is written by Queen Calm, an anonymous mother-to-be who is looking forward to meeting her son this fall. She blogs about life, books, and all her glamorous moments throughout pregnancy and motherhood. Plenty of great resources and funny humor.
In fact, this blogger (Queen Calm) has even guest posted on a site called the Pregnant Chicken, yes, it is what you think it is – and it started in 2010 so that women can share their experiences during pregnancy and beyond. This is another great resource for discussing things such as working while pregnant and helpful places to visit and antedotes to share.
Read more here about Life is Really Easy and the Pregnant Chicken.
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Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Marriott Surrogate Employee Sues
A surrogate employed by Marriott hotels is suing her employer over her inability to take lactation breaks while working.
According to Slate Magazine,
Marriott employee in California is suing the hotel chain for discrimination under both state and federal law, alleging that Marriott denied her legally mandated lactation breaks. Marriott says it was not required by law to give plaintiff Mary Gonzales, a cashier and accountant at the LAX Marriott, breaks to pump breast milk because Gonzales is a gestational surrogate, not a mother with an infant at home.
As a surrogate, Gonzales gave birth in April 2014 and, upon returning to work in June, took two 30-minute breaks each day to pump breast milk to send to the child’s parents. Once her obligation to send milk to that family ended at the end of the month, she decided to continue pumping for the “personal health benefits” of lactation and to donate to the Preemies Milk Bank and women who are unable to breastfeed. Gonzales alleges that her boss told her she could continue taking lactation breaks for another 30 days; when those 30 days were up, she began using her 30-minute lunch break instead, and ate lunch during her 10-minute morning rest break. As a result, Gonzales says, she suffered from clogged ducts, breast pain, blisters, and loss of sleep as she had to pump at night.
What many are questioning is should this be covered under the law? As the response from Marriott stated, “personal health benefits’ of lactation—which it compares to ‘exercising during the workday’—is unfounded.” What are your thoughts on this case?
Read more here about the Pregnant Surrogate Employed by Marriott Suing over Lactation Breaks.
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Conceptual Options Surrogacy: What Happens to Your Brain While Pregnant
We all have heard about “pregnancy brain,” but is it for real? We are not so sure after reading this, but it looks as if morning sickness and hormonal changes do create an environment of forgetfulness.
According to IFLScience.com,
My friend recently asked me: “Why have I become so forgetful since I became pregnant?” I told her I didn’t know, but that I’d look into it. She then followed with: “I was going to ask you to explain something else to me, but I totally forgot what it was.”
While a number of women – like my friend – complain that pregnancy has made them more forgetful than usual, the research on this topic is mixed. Like most changes that occur during pregnancy, hormonal fluctuations are an obvious possible culprit. Some women report no cognitive changes during pregnancy.
What do you think? Read more here about pregnancy brain.
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Sad Surrogacy News for Million Dollar Listing Agent Fredrik Eklund
It looks like a sad ending to wonderful news from Fredrik Eklund of Bravo’s Million Dollar Listing. Eklund, who announced earlier this year that his surrogate with husband, Derek Kaplan, was expecting twins now has some unfortunate news – his surrogate miscarried.
At Conceptual Options we know that miscarriage is a sad reality in our daily life, but that still does not lessen the blow when it happens to you. Best wishes to Fredrik Eklund and his husband, Derek. We certainly hope that the future holds a little girl for you both.
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Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Pregnant Chicken???
What a pregnant chicken? Who knew – but this site at Pregnant Chicken is awesome because it addresses how having a toddler and being pregnant can cramp your style. And, because we here at Conceptual Options are all about pregnancy and surrogacy, we think our surrogates will easily find this site helpful.
According to Pregnant Chicken,
Did anyone else think their second pregnancy would be easier than the first? I guess I thought I’d be an expert and so I was all, OH I GOT THIS. Ah, how naive. I didn’t take into account that there was a toddler around who didn’t give a rat’s ass that I was growing a new life. Kristin sent us this guest post and I remembered how many things were so much harder the second time around.
I’ve been lucky enough to have two “normal” pregnancies with no complications so far, and for that I am thankful. But, I will not lie, this second pregnancy has been much harder than my first. Maybe it’s because I just blocked out some of the less-glamorous aspects of being pregnant from my memory after the first time, or maybe it’s because I now have an energetic little toddler running around 24/7. Either way, the simple, small tasks of everyday life have become increasingly more and more difficult when you have a toddler and a baby bump.
Read more here at Pregnant Chicken, and let us know what you think.
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Conceptual Options IVF & Surrogacy News: China’s Ban on Egg Freezing Becoming National Debate
Many women in China are in a outrage over the Chinese government’s ban on egg freezing for single women who want to preserve their fertility. As they rightly should be, if you ask us.
According to Quartz,
If only it were equally simple for women in China to store their eggs—a hot topic since local media reported on several celebrities who, concerned about their age or the quality of their ova, have had their eggs frozen to allow them to delay motherhood. Of particular concern to Chinese women: The celebrities traveled abroad to escape strict laws on egg freezing; in China, married women face many restrictions on freezing their eggs, and the process is entirely closed to single women.
China’s ban on freezing eggs is officially in place to prevent an illegal ova trade but—unfortunately for many—freezing eggs is also against the interests of the state. In recent years the government has been trying to encourage women to give birth, rather than to put off motherhood, and freezing eggs could act against that…
The ACWF also ended its report on the topic with quotes from a gynecology doctor at the respected Fudan University, who detailed the dangers of storing eggs, and added: “I would suggest that healthy women have children rather than store eggs as an ‘insurance policy.’”
Interesting discussion on the concept of egg freezing, and one that we are also dealing with here in the US on a different level – not one that includes a ban, but one that questions if a woman should delay childbirth for her career. Read more here about China’s Ban on Egg Freezing.
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