Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Gay Couple Challenges IRS over Medical Deductions

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Gay Couple Challenges IRS over Medical Deductions

A gay couple in Florida is suing the IRS for denying their medical deductions for surrogacy and IVF.
According to Tampa Online,

Is being gay, in a long-term committed relationship, the same as being biologically infertile?

That’s the argument being made by a Stetson law professor in a lawsuit against the federal government.

Joseph F. Morrissey, who teaches constitutional and business law at Stetson, is seeking to overturn a ruling by the Internal Revenue Service that denied him and his partner a tax deduction. The deduction would have been for costs associated with their use of in-vitro fertilization and a surrogate who gave birth to their twin sons.

An IRS revenue agent who denied the claim said Morrissey’s sexual orientation was a “choice,” according to the lawsuit filed in U.S. District Court in Tampa.

Although there have been unsuccessful legal challenges to these deduction denials for gay men, Davis told The Tampa Tribune that Morrissey’s lawsuit makes a different legal argument — that being gay and in a committed relationship is the same as being medically infertile.

“I think it pushes the issue more clearly than perhaps was argued in (a previous case). It’s going to push the (IRS) to address this issue of, ‘Look I may not be infertile as defined by your standards historically or even as defined by medical textbooks, but the bare reality is that I can’t have a child without some type of costs that derive from the opposite gender.’ ’’

We also think that it is about time that the IRS catch up with the realities of real life – gay or straight.

Read more here about the gay couple suing the IRS over medical deductions.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News Gay Couple Sues IRS

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News Gay Couple Sues IRS

Conceptual Options Surrogacy: Working While Pregnant & the Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options Surrogacy: Working While Pregnant & the Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options’ staff has found a few blogs that we think are awesome information centers – no matter if this is your first child or last or you are a surrogate or an intended mother.  For starters, this delightful blog, Life is Really Easy, is written by Queen Calm, an anonymous mother-to-be who is looking forward to meeting her son this fall. She blogs about life, books, and all her glamorous moments throughout pregnancy and motherhood.  Plenty of great resources and funny humor.

In fact, this blogger (Queen Calm) has even guest posted on a site called the Pregnant Chicken, yes, it is what you think it is – and it started in 2010 so that women can share their experiences during pregnancy and beyond.  This is another great resource for discussing things such as working while pregnant and helpful places to visit and antedotes to share.

Read more here about Life is Really Easy and the Pregnant Chicken.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Resources & Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options Surrogacy Resources & Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Marriott Surrogate Employee Sues

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Marriott Surrogate Employee Sues

A surrogate employed by Marriott hotels is suing her employer over her inability to take lactation breaks while working.

According to Slate Magazine,

Marriott employee in California is suing the hotel chain for discrimination under both state and federal law, alleging that Marriott denied her legally mandated lactation breaks. Marriott says it was not required by law to give plaintiff Mary Gonzales, a cashier and accountant at the LAX Marriott, breaks to pump breast milk because Gonzales is a gestational surrogate, not a mother with an infant at home.

As a surrogate, Gonzales gave birth in April 2014 and, upon returning to work in June, took two 30-minute breaks each day to pump breast milk to send to the child’s parents. Once her obligation to send milk to that family ended at the end of the month, she decided to continue pumping for the “personal health benefits” of lactation and to donate to the Preemies Milk Bank and women who are unable to breastfeed. Gonzales alleges that her boss told her she could continue taking lactation breaks for another 30 days; when those 30 days were up, she began using her 30-minute lunch break instead, and ate lunch during her 10-minute morning rest break. As a result, Gonzales says, she suffered from clogged ducts, breast pain, blisters, and loss of sleep as she had to pump at night.

What many are questioning is should this be covered under the law?  As the response from Marriott stated, “personal health benefits’ of lactation—which it compares to ‘exercising during the workday’—is unfounded.” What are your thoughts on this case?

Read more here about the Pregnant Surrogate Employed by Marriott Suing over Lactation Breaks.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Surrogacy Pregnancy Lactation

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Surrogacy Pregnancy Lactation

Conceptual Options Surrogacy: What Happens to Your Brain While Pregnant

Conceptual Options Surrogacy: What Happens to Your Brain While Pregnant

We all have heard about “pregnancy brain,” but is it for real?  We are not so sure after reading this, but it looks as if morning sickness and hormonal changes do create an environment of forgetfulness.

According to IFLScience.com,

My friend recently asked me: “Why have I become so forgetful since I became pregnant?” I told her I didn’t know, but that I’d look into it. She then followed with: “I was going to ask you to explain something else to me, but I totally forgot what it was.”

While a number of women – like my friend – complain that pregnancy has made them more forgetful than usual, the research on this topic is mixed. Like most changes that occur during pregnancy, hormonal fluctuations are an obvious possible culprit. Some women report no cognitive changes during pregnancy.

What do you think?  Read more here about pregnancy brain.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy & Pregnant Brain

Conceptual Options Surrogacy & Pregnant Brain

Sad Surrogacy News for Million Dollar Listing Agent Fredrik Eklund

Sad Surrogacy News for Million Dollar Listing Agent Fredrik Eklund

It looks like a sad ending to wonderful news from Fredrik Eklund of Bravo’s Million Dollar Listing.  Eklund, who announced earlier this year that his surrogate with husband, Derek Kaplan, was expecting twins now has some unfortunate news – his surrogate miscarried.

At Conceptual Options we know that miscarriage is a sad reality in our daily life, but that still does not lessen the blow when it happens to you.  Best wishes to Fredrik Eklund and his husband, Derek.  We certainly hope that the future holds a little girl for you both.

Conceptual Options Sad Surrogacy News

Conceptual Options Sad Surrogacy News

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Pregnant Chicken???

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Pregnant Chicken???

What a pregnant chicken?  Who knew – but this site at Pregnant Chicken is awesome because it addresses how having a toddler and being pregnant can cramp your style.  And, because we here at Conceptual Options are all about pregnancy and surrogacy, we think our surrogates will easily find this site helpful.

According to Pregnant Chicken,

Did anyone else think their second pregnancy would be easier than the first? I guess I thought I’d be an expert and so I was all, OH I GOT THIS. Ah, how naive. I didn’t take into account that there was a toddler around who didn’t give a rat’s ass that I was growing a new life. Kristin sent us this guest post and I remembered how many things were so much harder the second time around.

I’ve been lucky enough to have two “normal” pregnancies with no complications so far, and for that I am thankful. But, I will not lie, this second pregnancy has been much harder than my first. Maybe it’s because I just blocked out some of the less-glamorous aspects of being pregnant from my memory after the first time, or maybe it’s because I now have an energetic little toddler running around 24/7. Either way, the simple, small tasks of everyday life have become increasingly more and more difficult when you have a toddler and a baby bump.

Read more here at Pregnant Chicken, and let us know what you think.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy & Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options Surrogacy & Pregnant Chicken

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News Update: Domenico Dolce Finally Apologizes for Comments on Surrogacy & IVF

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News Update: Domenico Dolce Finally Apologizes for Comments on Surrogacy & IVF

As we discussed here almost six months ago about Dolce & Gabbana’s comments against IVF and Surrogacy, Domenico Dolce caused a stir, with celebrities such as Ricki Martin, Elton John and others calling for a boycott of the company.

According to Cosmopolitan,

Six months ago, Domenico Dolce (or the Dolce half of design duo Dolce & Gabbana) surprised and offended many with his views on family: “We oppose gay adoptions,” he said in an interview with the Italian magazine Panorama. “The only family is the traditional one. No chemical offsprings and rented uterus: life has a natural flow, there are things that should not be changed.​”

Dolce went on to say, “You are born to a mother and a father — or at least that’s how it should be. I call children of chemistry, synthetic children. Uteri [for] rent, semen chosen from a catalog​.”

….

Elton John even started a hashtag of #boycottDolceGabbana.

But the article continued,

Now, after a period of “soul-searching,” Dolce is opening up about his feelings to Vogue“I am so sorry,” he said. “It was not my intention to offend anyone.”

Dolce claims he has since changed his mind about this subject. “I’ve talked to Stefano [Gabbana] a lot about this,” Dolce said. “I’ve realized that my words were inappropriate, and I apologize. They are just kids. You don’t need labels, baby labels.”

Hmmm….baby labels?  Well, we certainly hope that he continues on his journey to understanding.

Read more here about Domenico Dolce’s apology.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Dolce & Gabbana

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Dolce & Gabbana

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Kim Kardashian Denies Surrogacy Rumors

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Kim Kardashian Denies Surrogacy Rumors

No matter what anyone thinks of Kim Kardashian and her pregnancy, it is fairly obvious that having a surrogate would provide her with additional time in front of the camera.  So, the fact that she is now denying all rumors of having a surrogate is actually a sad commentary on the way that the world (the haters specifically) looks at other people, especially celebrities.  Hear what she has to say…

According to E Online,

The pregnant Keeping Up With the Kardashians star took to Instagram to post a completely naked picture of herself in order to show followers what she looks like at this stage of her pregnancy. In her caption she slams those who dare criticize her growing baby bump, telling the haters, “Everyone’s body is different, every pregnancy is very different!”

She and husband Kanye Westwere very vocal about their fertility struggles the second time around, so she says she is “blessed” to be expecting her baby boy. The E! star went through it all when she was pregnant with North West, so this time around she isn’t taking any nonsense from anybody.

“First they say I’m too skinny so I have to be faking it…Now they say I’m too big so I have to be faking it…SMH! Some days I’m photographed before I eat & look smaller, some days I’ve just eaten & I look bigger. It’s all a part of the process,” she captioned the racy pic. “I think you all know me well enough to know I would document the process if I got a surrogate. Everyone’s body is different, every pregnancy is very different! I’ve learned to love my body at every stage! I’m going to get even bigger & that’s beautiful too! I’m blessed to even be pregnant & even luckier to not have preeclampsia as far as I know, so I don’t have the swelling issue this time!

Read more here about Kim Kardashian and her naked selfie proof.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy: Kim Kardashian Surrogacy Rumors

Conceptual Options Surrogacy: Kim Kardashian Surrogacy Rumors

 

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Woman Gives Birth to Her Identical Twin’s Baby

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Woman Gives Birth to Her Identical Twin’s Baby

Gotta love these stories!  We wanted to share this heart-warming story with all of those women thinking about becoming a surrogate for another woman – sister or not!

According to Fox News,

After finding out her identical twin sister was unable to have a baby, a Long Island, New York, woman offered to carry her sister’s baby. On Wednesday, August 5, she gave birth to a healthy baby boy, who will be referred to as her nephew, Patch.com reported.

In 2009, Allison Ardolino Dinkelacker was 30 weeks pregnant with her first child when she learned she had stage 3 breast cancer. She needed to start chemotherapy immediately, and her son Dylan was born by emergency caesarean section at 31 weeks.

Cancer-free but unable to conceive again because her cancer was brought on by hormones, Allison wanted another child to grow her family. Her twin sister, Dawn Ardolino Policastro, came with her to a doctor’s appointment, where they were told that were Allison to survive a pregnancy, she’d be unable to carry another child.

Read more here about the identical twin who carried her sister’s baby.

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Identical Twins Surrogacy

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Identical Twins Surrogacy

Conceptual Options’ Surrogacy News: Shayne Lamas Welcomes Son via Surrogate

Conceptual Options’ Surrogacy News: Shayne Lamas Welcomes Son via Surrogate

We all remember when Shayne Lamas suffered a miscarriage in 2014, causing her to be unable to carry any more children.  Fortunately, she found La Jolla IVF and Dr. Smotrich to help on the medical side, and she found her step-mother as her surrogate, who carried her son who was born on July 4th.  What a wonderful gift!

According to US Weekly,

Lamas and Richie’s son “arrived via natural water birth” on the Fourth of July at 6 pounds, 4 ounces, the couple told Closer magazine. “Everyone is healthy and happy.” (Craig and Lamas’ dad, actor Lorenzo Lamas, wed in April 2011. Craig, 29, stepped in after Shayne had a miscarriage in February 2014.)

“Shawna’s not just my stepmother. She’s like a soul sister,” Shayne told Closer in February. “She’s an angel that blessed my whole family, including my father.”

Congratulations to Shayne and her husband, Nik Richie.
Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Lamas Surrogacy

Conceptual Options Surrogacy News: Lamas Surrogacy